I know that at first glance this post may seem like I’m re-writing the post about the Tell Me Face, and in some ways I am. I am trying to fill pages with you as parents about your book of language development and as we’ve discussed, when filling pages, repetition is key. Also though, there are nuances to these concepts that can be easily missed. So in order to not let anything pass you by, let’s be very clear.
In the Tell Me Face post I alluded to one of those nuances of a successful page-filling interaction when I asked the following questions:
Where is your face when your child is trying to tell you something?
Is it in the same room?
Is it on their level?
What is that level?
So now let’s hash out that nuance by focusing on getting down.
In order to get down, put your face on the same level as your child’s. If your child is standing, kneel. If your child is sitting down and playing on the floor, lay down on your side. If your child is sitting in the highchair for a meal or a snack, pull up a chair. If your child is sitting on the couch, sit on the floor. After all, the Tell Me Face is certainly most effective when in plain view. In addition, you being on your child’s level reiterates that message of, “I hear you”, and “what you have to say is important to me”.
I know it may seem silly or obvious, but if you have to think of how to get on your child’s level in the middle of your interaction, you probably won’t do it. We all interact with our children so intuitively, and while nothing I’m telling you is rocket science, it can be difficult to implement these small changes in our daily lives.
So, let’s plan it out ahead of time and take out the on our feet thinking part.
Your homework then is to write down (most favorably in the comments section of this post) one time when you are going to get on your child’s level and how.
I’ll give you the first one.
Snack: My daughter in her high chair. Me in front of her in a chair. (“Face time” for real).